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Episode 9 of 12

Freedom Through Forgiveness

with David Steele

Episode 9 of 12

Freedom Through Forgiveness

with David Steele

If you are looking for new freedom in your life and healing from the wounds of the past, this episode is for you! It is incredibly difficult to fulfill your calling while carrying pain from your past. In episode nine, David explains what forgiveness is and what it isn’t, giving you valuable keys to walking in the incredible healing and freedom God wants for your life. Don’t let your past define your future.
1. What did you learn that was new about the transaction of forgiveness now? 2. Did God remind you of anybody you need to forgive while you watched? 3. Did you have a sense that God was bringing release or healing as you prayed with David at the end? Is this a process that you need to spend some time on privately? 4. How will you approach forgiveness differently now you’ve received this teaching? 5. Do you think forgiveness might be a key that could bring more healing and freedom in your life in areas that you had perhaps lost hope that you would ever be free? 6. Have you ever lived with guilt and shame as a christian? What has helped you in times like this? 7. What do you think the Bible means when it says “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.”- Romans 8:1 8. Was there anything that happened in your life that now realise you had blamed God for, or had caused you to stop fully trusting Him? 9. Do you ever struggle to forgive yourself? Do you sometimes set a higher standard for yourself than even God does? Something to ponder: Forgiveness is an overflow. It’s only when we get a revelation of how much God has forgiven us that we are able to extend that same forgiveness to others. Do you need to ask God to give you a greater revelation of how much He has forgiven you? Do you need to ask Him to soften your heart and help you to forgive so that you will be able to experience the wonderful healing and freedom that forgiveness brings?
Hey guys, and welcome back to this series on “How to Fulfill Your Calling”. We’re now in episode nine and I have a really strong sense that many of you are going to find keys to healing and freedom and breakthrough in areas of your lives that perhaps you’ve been struggling with for a long time, or perhaps could hold you back from fulfilling your calling. You see, in the last episode I talked a bit about some of the things that can hold us back. We talked about feelings of failure, we talked about pride, we talked about fear, I talked about idolatry, and then I talked about unresolved issues – those issues in our lives that are there, they haven’t been resolved yet and they could hold us back. And one of the issues in my life was pornography. Before I became a Christian I was introduced to pornography. And by the time I became a Christian I was already addicted to pornography, and I knew God was putting his hand on this area of my life and making it clear that this behavior was not compatible with the new life that I’d found in Christ. But you know, I tried everything and I prayed every prayer I could think of and I just didn’t seem to be able to break free from this behavior. Maybe there are one or two things in your life where you feel like you’re just going round in circles, unable to break free. And I remember one day I went to receive prayer from a much older couple. I remember telling them about my problem and I remember the husband looked at me and he said to me, “David, how’s your relationship with your dad?” I remember thinking to myself, ‘Well that’s a big change of subject! I came talking about this addiction and you’re asking me how my relationship with my dad is!’ And I remember saying to them, “Well, yeah, my relationship is really good with my dad, thank you”. And then the man said to me, “David, would you be willing to pray that God would reveal if there’s anything to do with your relationship with your dad that He wants to heal?” I remember saying, “Yeah, of course I will, yeah”. And so I just bowed my head and closed my eyes and I said, “God, is there anything to do with my relationship with my dad that you would like to heal?” And as I said those words, I remembered something that happened when I was about 11 or 12 years old. And I remembered standing in front of the mirror in the bathroom, and I’d obviously grown some kind of fluff around here because I decided that it was time to shave. And I remember thinking, ‘What does my dad do?’ And I’d seen my dad do it, and he took the shaving foam, so I took the shaving foam and I sprayed it in my hand and I made a Father Christmas type beard. And I looked in the mirror and I thought, ‘Yep, that looks right. Now what does my dad do next?’ So I remember taking the razor blade and I went like this, and the white Father Christmas beard started to turn pink on this side, and I thought, ‘That’s not quite right’. So then I took the razor blade on the other side and I went like this and I felt a sharp pain and then blood started to drip down the beard. And I remember thinking, ‘That’s not supposed to happen’. And then I could remember a feeling that I can only describe as ’emotional poverty’, and as I looked in the mirror, I remember thinking to myself, ‘Somebody should be showing me how to do this.’ Anyway, as I remembered that years later, I burst out crying and I cried and I cried and I cried and I was thinking, ‘Where are all these tears coming from?’ I had no idea that there was pain inside me. And of course it wasn’t just about my dad not being there that day when I needed to learn how to shave, but actually there were many times as I was growing up when I probably needed my dad alongside me showing me things and for whatever reason he wasn’t there, and I didn’t realize that I was carrying a lot of pain because of that. And these people who were praying for me encouraged me to just pray and to choose to forgive my dad for anything that he wasn’t able to give me as I was growing up and any things that he did to me that were hurtful or any things that he said to me that had caused me pain and as I did that I realized that God was healing me on the inside. I had no idea that the root of my addiction to pornography was actually that I was looking for comfort, I was looking for release from some of the things that I was feeling on the inside and I didn’t even understand where they were coming from. I didn’t know that freedom would come through forgiveness. And a few years later something happened in my life and I struggled with depression and I really struggled with feeling very low. And I remember waking up in the morning some mornings and feeling so low that I didn’t even want to get out of bed, and sometimes I even had thoughts like, ‘Well it’d be easier if I just died today, it would be much easier to not carry on living this life with the way I feel”. And interestingly, I haven’t got time to go into that whole story now, but freedom from depression also came through forgiveness. And that’s why what I’m going to share in this episode is so powerful and I’ve seen it radically transform not only my life, but many other people’s lives. And I just want to say at this point, you know, it would be easy for me to say, “Oh, just forgive the people who have hurt you and you’ll be free”, but the reality is that many Christians, in my experience, think that they’ve already forgiven the people who have hurt them but actually they’re still carrying the baggage and they’re still carrying the pain. And in this episode I really want to talk about the real transaction of forgiveness – what it is and what it isn’t, so that you can really understand it, because I believe that the the key of forgiveness really is a key, and it can open and unlock doors that have been closed in your life, and where it seems like you can’t break free. So let’s get into episode 9 – Freedom Through Forgiveness. Okay, let’s start in Isaiah chapter 53 verse 5 and it’s talking about Jesus. It says, “But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his stripes we are healed.” So it’s talking about the punishment that was upon Jesus for our sin, and then it says, “and by his stripes we are healed”. So it’s saying that the same solution that God gave for sin actually brings healing into our lives as well – there’s a connection between those two things. And then if we look at what Jesus said in Matthew 6, he said, “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly father will also forgive you, But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive yours.” So if there’s something about receiving forgiveness for our sin that brings healing to us, but Jesus says, “If you can’t forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will not forgive you”, then it seems to be that actually forgiving others enables us to walk fully into the things that God has already accomplished for us through Jesus’ death on the cross, and that includes healing. So if we bear the words of Jesus in mind for a minute, I just want to ask you a question: What percentage of your sins do you want to have forgiven? Twenty percent? Thirty percent? I know what you’re thinking. 100%, right? So what does that mean? Well that means we have to forgive everybody, everything. Because Jesus said, “If we don’t forgive them, our Father in heaven won’t forgive us”. And what I’ve noticed is that often when we’ve sinned, we go to the Lord very specifically and we say to Him, “Father, this is the thing that I’ve done wrong. I’m so sorry. Would you forgive me, and would you help me not to do that again.” But when it comes to forgiveness, we think we can just pray a quick prayer – “God I just forgive everybody who’s ever hurt me. Thank you very much, Amen.” And we think it’s done! But the reality is it’s not. And many of us are still carrying around the pain of unforgiveness and bitterness in our hearts, and actually often it’s affecting our bodies as well, and we’re struggling because we haven’t truly forgiven. So let’s get really practical now. First of all I want to talk about what forgiveness is not, and then I’ll talk about what forgiveness is. So what forgiveness is not. Forgiveness is not saying that what that person did to you was okay. You see, God is the judge. We are not the judges, and if that person has done something wrong to you, God is going to give a right judgment about what happened to you. And actually it’s not our job. And if you think about it, when you’ve been badly hurt, imagine you’ve been badly hurt and you’re thinking about what that person did to you and you’re still feeling the pain of what happened, do you think that you’re in a good position to make a right judgment about what has just happened to you? Well probably out of all the people on planet earth, you are the worst person to make a right judgment about what’s happened to you! But actually God knows every action that took place between the two of you, He knows every word that was spoken – in your presence and outside of your presence. He knows every thought that went through your mind and the other person’s mind, and He knows something we could never know, which is the intention of the heart of both people. So God is in the perfect position to make a right judgment about what has happened to you and we need to trust Him with that. And we need to hand that over to Him and release ourselves from the weight of the offense that’s been committed against us. And sometimes we need to do that even if the offence is perceived. Sometimes the other person hasn’t done anything to us but we perceive that they’ve hurt us, and we still need to let it go and we need to give it to God and say, “God, you be the judge.” The second thing forgiveness is not, is forgiveness is not denying the pain or the anger. You see, God has given us emotions. Actually, we need to express emotions in order to walk through the highs and lows of this life. But sometimes what we do, is we stuff those emotions down and instead of expressing them they build up and they build up and we end up carrying them. And often this can be what is one of the causes of depression – is that we’re carrying around so much emotion that we haven’t released. And it’s okay to express anger at a situation. The problem is we have to be careful how we express that anger. The scripture says, “In your anger do not sin”. Tt also says, “Don’t let the sun go down while you’re still angry”. So it says, if somebody, what it’s saying is if somebody has offended you today let out that anger but don’t do it in a way that hurts others in a sinful way. And also, do it today – let it out express it today in a right way so that you don’t carry it into tomorrow. So we mustn’t push down our hurt or our anger. It needs to be released. And actually the right place to do that is your relationship with God. You see, Christianity isn’t a religion, it’s a relationship. We need to be able to tell God exactly how we feel. We need to be able to cry with Him. Sometimes I will go into the bedroom and i’ll hit the bed and let out my frustration and anger, and even scream into the pillow if I’m really frustrated. And I’ll let those emotions out and as I do that I’ll say, “But God I choose to forgive that person.” Why? Not because they were right, not because it didn’t hurt. What they did was wrong and it did hurt. I’m choosing to forgive because you have forgiven me. Okay, the next thing forgiveness is not, is forgiveness is not making excuses for people. Imagine if I came up to you and I just stamped on your foot, and I just walked away and I came back an hour or two later and I said, “I’m really sorry for stamping on your foot. I know it wasn’t the right thing to do but actually the way you looked to me when I came into the room made me feel so angry and upset, that’s why I stamped on your foot!” Was that an apology? No, right? But I said, “I’m sorry for stamping on your foot”. But you know that that wasn’t an apology. Why? Because I made an excuse. I justified stamping on your foot. I told you what you did wrong and that’s why I did it. And it’s the same with forgiveness. And I want you to listen really carefully now, because I see people make this mistake all over the world. And they might start to pray and say, “God, I come before you now and I choose to forgive my dad because there were times in my life that he was not there for me when I needed him, and actually I know that his dad was not there for him and he didn’t have a dad growing up, and that’s probably why he can’t give me what he didn’t receive…” Whoa, whoa, stop! Do you see what’s happened there? I started by saying, “God I choose to forgive my dad”, and within a few sentences I’d moved on to the fact that my dad didn’t have a dad when he was growing up, and I started to justify why he wasn’t able to give me those things. So I moved from forgiveness to justification, and there will be no healing when you do that because forgiveness is about bringing the pain of what has happened to you to God, and then truly releasing that person into God’s hands. And so we need to be saying, “God, I come before you now and I choose to forgive my dad because there were times in my life when he was not there for me and I needed him”. And actually at that point you might remember some of those times, you might remember some of those moments, and you might just begin to cry as you share with God some of the times where you were waiting for him and he didn’t show up, or when he abandoned your family, or when he hurt you, when he abused you or used you, or he hurt your mum or he shouted at your mum or something like that. Can you see what I’m saying? And you let out the frustration, you let out the anger, you let out the tears, and then you say, “But God, I’m choosing to forgive because you’ve forgiven me, and you’ve called me to forgive everybody, everything”. And I just want to tell you, when you let out the emotions and you forgive, that’s where the healing takes place. And God wants to heal the parts of you that have been damaged. And the reality is, none of us have had perfect parents. Everybody needs to forgive their parents for something. And of course there’ll be lots of other people in your life that you’ll need to forgive, but as you do that, God will release you from the pain and you’ll be lighter and you’ll be freer. And maybe many of the things, the unresolved issues, maybe the depression, the addictions, and things like that will start to go away. Another thing that forgiveness is not, is forgiveness is not waiting until the forgiveness is deserved. Let me ask you a question: If Jesus Christ of Nazareth was waiting for our forgiveness to be deserved, at what point in history do you think he would have died on the cross for us? Answer: never, right? If Jesus was waiting for our forgiveness to be deserved, he’d still be waiting! So forgiveness starts now. You can’t wait until that person starts treating you differently or starts treating you in a way that you feel like, ‘Now they deserve my forgiveness’. Jesus is our example, and while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. So let’s now look at what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is a transaction between you and God. You see, sometimes we think it’s a transaction between us and the other person but actually it’s not. Because if you look at a relationship, if I’m in a relationship with another person. Maybe we’ve had a good relationship but there are some things that they’ve done to hurt me and some things that I’ve done to hurt them. Well if I stand before God and say, “What am I accountable to God for in this relationship?” First thing I have to say is, “Well is there anything that I’ve done wrong to this person?”. And if there is, then I need to say, “God, I’m so sorry”. Now the second thing I’m accountable for is, “Is there any unforgiveness or bitterness in my heart towards this person?” And if there is, I need to say sorry, and I need to forgive that person. And actually they are the only two things that I’m accountable to God for. And you might be thinking to yourself, ‘But David, what about the things that that person did to you?’ Well I could ask you the question: who is accountable to God for the things that that person did to me? Well, they are! And actually some people are confused about this, and they say, “Oh but but the person who hurt me has died so it’s too late now and I can’t forgive them”, or “the person who hurt me has moved away and I don’t have contact with them anymore and so therefore I can’t forgive them”, because they’re thinking that there needs to be a conversation between the two people and that this person needs to accept their forgiveness, but that’s not true. Imagine if you forgiving somebody depended on them accepting your forgiveness, and Jesus said, “If you don’t forgive them, He can’t forgive you”. Well then your entire salvation would depend on this person accepting your forgiveness or not! So forgiveness is a transaction between you and God, and you can complete the transaction of forgiveness without the involvement of the other person. And don’t confuse forgiveness with reconciliation -reconciliation takes two, but forgiveness can be done between you and God. Okay, so let’s not forget that you and I are only accountable for what we have done wrong in a relationship. We’re not accountable for what the other person has done to us. And there’s this really interesting story in the life of David. If you remember, David committed adultery with a woman called Bathsheba and then he sent her husband out on the front line of the battle to be killed. So really, David murdered her husband. And in Psalm 51 verse 4, David is talking to God about what he’s done, and he’s confessing his sin and he’s repenting of this sin, and he says, “against you, you only have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight”. And we we could think to ourselves, ‘But David, you didn’t sin only against God. You sinned against Bathsheba, you sinned against her family, you sinned against her husband, you sinned against his family”. But somehow David, and the Bible says, “David was a man after God’s own heart”, somehow David knew that sin is between the person who’s committed it and God. Then if you think about Jesus, when Jesus was hanging on the cross, he didn’t say, “I forgive you guys”. Actually in Luke 23:34 Jesus said, “Father forgive them for they do not know what they are doing”. And somehow David and Jesus were not so much interested in what happened between the human beings, they were much more focused on the issue of sin between a person and God. And actually, of course Jesus forgave the people who hurt him, but what he was saying was actually, “what’s much more significant here than them hurting me is that they have sinned against God, and God is going to judge them”. And you know sometimes when we make it all about us, and we make it about how they’ve hurt me and, “can you believe what they did to me and how much they hurt me?”, our hearts stay hard. And actually that’s how we get bitter, and bitterness destroys us from the inside. But when our heart breaks for the fact that they have sinned against God, and they desperately need His forgiveness otherwise they’re going to be judged for that sin, that can sometimes help to soften our hearts. And if we’re going to forgive everybody who’s hurt us, we need our hearts to be softened. So just remember that that person is going to have to answer to God and if your heart has really become soft, you’ll start to pray that actually God would lead them to Himself and that He would forgive them and that they won’t be judged for that sin – that God would extend the same mercy to them as he extended to you. That’s why Jesus said, “Bless those who curse you and do good to those who do you harm”, and actually until you can do that, you’re probably not free from unforgiveness. So I talked a little bit about how we mustn’t confuse forgiveness with reconciliation, but we also mustn’t confuse forgiveness with trust. You see, some people who have been badly hurt say, “Well I can’t forgive that person because if I forgive that person then I’m going to have to trust them in the same way that I did before”. And I just want to say that that is not true – God is calling you to forgive everybody but He’s not always calling you to trust people in the same way that you did before they hurt you, and I’ll give you an example of that. If me and my wife are traveling and doing ministry together and we ask a babysitter to look after our children, and we come home after the ministry and we say, “Thank you very much” to the babysitter and that babysitter goes home, and then we realize that the babysitter has abused one of our children, will God call us to forgive that babysitter? Absolutely. We forgive everybody, everything. Would it be wise for me to call the same babysitter to come and look after our children the following week? Absolutely not! Why because that trust has to be earned, and that person has broken my trust. And sometimes in a relationship where there’s reconciliation, you will find that you forgive each other and you reconcile and the relationship is closer than it ever was before, but other times you’ll find that forgiveness happens and actually the relationship isn’t what it was before. And don’t feel like you have to trust that person at the same level as you did. Sometimes it’s sensible to have a bit more of a boundary between you and another person, especially if they’ve controlled or manipulated you or really badly broken your trust. Okay, let’s look at, how do I forgive when I can’t? There are those times when we’ve been so badly hurt that we feel like we do not have the capacity to forgive. And I think the first thing I want to say is, don’t focus on the other person. Focus on the transaction between you and God. This is about you getting your heart right before God. “God, is there anything I’ve done wrong in this relationship?” “God, is there any unforgiveness or bitterness in my heart?” Don’t focus on the other person, focus on what’s in your heart. Second thing is that we need God’s help. I remember one of my leaders in the past always used to say that God is the petrol station of forgiveness. And what she meant by that is if your car runs out of petrol you can’t drive it. And sometimes we feel like our forgiveness tank is empty, but actually because God’s character is to forgive, we can come to Him and we can ask Him to fill our forgiveness tank. And the third thing is you need to ask Him to do that. James 4 verse 2 says, “you have not because you ask not”. And we ask God for so many things but how often do we ask him to help us to forgive the people who have hurt us? I want to really encourage you to do that. And I remember when I was teaching on forgiveness once in a church and a man came up to me and he was a teacher in a local school. And he said to me, “David there’s been this other member of staff at my school and they’ve really tried to get me fired from my job. They’ve been spreading awful rumors and accusations about me”. And he said, “As you were teaching, I could see this prison cell and I could see the bars of the cell and I could see this other member of staff in there”. And he said, “I could see myself on the outside. It was like I was poking this person and torturing them”. And he said, “it felt really good”. And then he said, “as you continued to talk, the vision zoomed in and I realized that the person in the prison cell was actually me”. And I said to him, “That’s exactly what I’m talking about”. Sometimes we feel like we’re getting even or we’re kind of retaliating by holding bitterness or unforgiveness but actually we’re keeping ourselves in prison. Okay, how do we know when we’ve forgiven? And I think that’s a really good question. One of the things we can look at is the fruit in our lives. Are we still struggling with addictions, depression, are we still struggling with fear and anxiety, eating disorders, that kind of thing. Because if we are, there’s a good chance that there are people in our lives that we still need to forgive. But we can also think specifically about specific relationships and we could say, “If I was walking down the street today and that person came towards me, what would I do?” Would I quickly run across to the other side of the road and hope that they don’t see me? Or would I be able to go up to them with an open face and a smile and shake their hand and say, “Hi, how are you?” Can I pray for that person in the way that I would pray for my own life – that God would pour out his blessings, that God would pour out his healing if they’re sick, that He would bring them to salvation if they don’t know Him, that they would fulfill God’s call on their life? Perhaps you are the only person who can really know whether you’re fully free or whether you’ve really forgiven that person, and I want to encourage you to do those things. Try to pray for that person and ask God, “God, where is my heart at towards that person?” And don’t forget that forgiveness often happens in layers. You might have spent time forgiving them before but it doesn’t mean you’ve completely forgiven them. There might be a bit more work to do and there might be some more emotions to let out, and that’s okay. That’s, you know, one of the things that forgiveness is not that I haven’t mentioned, is forgiveness is not just a quick prayer. No, it’s a process. There’s much more to the process of forgiveness than just a quick prayer, so take your time. Go before the Lord, search your heart, pray for that person. Ask God to soften your heart and keep saying, “God, I’m choosing to forgive”. Let God lead you through the process. At this point I’d really encourage you to get a pen and a piece of paper or get out your phone and start making notes because I want you to write down any people that you know you might still need to forgive. Make a list of the people that you have in your heart right now that God has been reminding you of as I’ve been speaking. And I want to look at three categories of people that we need to forgive. And the first one is just other people, and when I talk about other people I just want to remind you that the people who are closest to you can hurt you the most. The more you trust somebody, the easier it is for them to hurt you. So you might have somebody in your life who you don’t trust very much, you’re not very close to – they could do something nasty to you but somebody who you really trust and really love and really care about what they think could do something very small and it could be even more painful than the big thing that the person that you didn’t really know very well did to you, okay. And some of the people we need to forgive – our parents. our teachers. you know especially those who have been in authority over us. Often the words that they speak carry a lot of weight if they’re in authority over us and they might have said things to you that have had a crushing effect on your spirit and not building you up and affirming you. So parents, teachers, maybe boyfriends or girlfriends that you had growing up. Maybe people that you’ve worked with or you’ve worked for. Brothers and sisters, friends, extended family members. I think sometimes as a Christian it can be really painful if your family members don’t know Jesus and they really don’t like some of the decisions that you’re making as you’re trying to be led by the Spirit, and sometimes we need to forgive them. Ultimately we’ve got to forgive anybody who has hurt us. And the second category is God. And you might be thinking, ‘David, what are you talking about?! What has God ever done wrong?’. And of course you’re right. God has never done anything to hurt you, but sometimes when difficult things happen in life we blame God for the things that happen. Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it, and we say, “God, how could you have let that happen? My life would be so much better if that thing hadn’t happened to me.” And we don’t even realize it, but what’s happened is we’ve blamed God for something. And of course we don’t need to forgive God, because He hasn’t done anything wrong, but we need to say sorry to God – “God I’m so sorry that I blamed you for that thing”. And the reason that we need to do that, is because when we allow something to get between us and God it affects our ability to trust Him, and we need to get that 100% trust in God back again. So we’ve got to say sorry for the things that we’ve blamed God for. The third category, maybe you already know it’s the hardest person to forgive, it’s yourself. And I remember I was struggling with this at one time, and because I think especially as a Christian, sometimes we can forgive others who’ve hurt us but we feel so bad about the things that we’ve done to hurt others. And I remember I was struggling with this once and I really felt God speak to me and He said to me, “David, if I the God of the universe can forgive you for everything you’ve ever done wrong but you can’t forgive yourself, then that means you have a higher standard than me”. And I remember thinking, ‘oh’. You know, it’s like a knife pierced me in the heart – the conviction of God. And I realized, I need to humble myself. And I said, “God, I’m so sorry. If you have chosen to forgive me, and you’ve done everything necessary to forgive me, then I’m going to choose to forgive myself. Who am I not to forgive myself after you’ve forgiven me so much?” And I really believe that it grieves God when we carry around guilt and shame for the things that we’ve done wrong when He sent his Son to die on the cross to free us from that guilt and shame. So I encourage you, don’t live in guilt shame or condemnation anymore. “There is therefore no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” – that’s what the Word of God says. So I think at this point it’ll be really good for us to pray, and I want to encourage you to do this in your own time as well. It’s not a quick prayer, it’s a process that you will need to do in your own time between you and God. Find a quiet place, let out some of those emotions and forgive whoever you need to forgive. Let’s just pray quickly through those three categories right now together. So Father, we just come before you now, we just thank you for your truth, Lord we thank you, Jesus, for how much you’ve forgiven us. And we want to come before you right now and we want to choose to forgive those who have hurt us. And maybe just between you and God, you can just speak out the names of the people that you know you need to forgive right now. Just speak out their names and say, “God, I choose to forgive that person”. And it’s okay if tears start to come now because God wants you to express the reality of the pain to Him, because He wants to get to that pain so he can heal it. Just speak out the people who hurt you and feel free just to tell God what they did and how it made you feel. And say, “God I choose to forgive. I’m choosing to forgive that person. Why? Because you’ve forgiven me. And let’s just say sorry to God for any things that we’ve blamed Him for. Sometimes it’s the loss of a child or the loss of an unborn child. Sometimes it’s the loss of a relationship or even a natural disaster that has caused loss in our lives or the loss of a loved one. And let’s just, let’s just say sorry to God for where we might have blamed Him. So Father, we just come before you now, we just want to thank you that you haven’t done anything to harm us, Lord. You always have our best interests at heart and we just want to say we’re so sorry for blaming you. And just say to God what the thing was that you know you blamed Him for, or you said ‘God how could you let that happen?’ and you stopped trusting him 100%. Just say, “God I’m so sorry”. And God we just want to come before you now and say Lord, we choose to trust you again 100%. Even though we don’t understand everything or why it happens we’re choosing to believe that you are good, that you love us and that you always have our best interests at heart. And now let’s just take a moment to forgive ourselves. And if there’s something you know that you’ve done – the worst thing you can think of that you’ve done – maybe you’ve been feeling guilty and ashamed about it, why don’t you just choose to forgive yourself right now. So father we just want to humble ourselves and, Lord, out of the thankfulness that we have in our hearts that you’ve forgiven us everything, we choose right now to release ourselves from our own judgment. And I just want to pray for you as you do that. Father, I just pray you would lift off every bit of guilt and shame and condemnation from everybody who’s watching right now. Every bit of guilt, shame and condemnation, go in Jesus’ name. And I just speak healing right now into your whole spirit, soul and body. Jesus is the healer of the brokenhearted and I speak healing into your heart in Jesus’ name. Father, would you just come and bring healing, would you bring release, would you bring freedom – freedom from fear, freedom from rejection, freedom from sickness, freedom from depression, freedom from anxiety and stress, and freedom from addictions in Jesus’ name. And just allow the Holy Spirit to minister to you right now. Father I just pray you would fill each person who’s watching now with your Holy Spirit. Fill us afresh, Lord I pray, with your Spirit. Help us to walk in your ways and would you lead us through this process of forgiveness and healing, Father, that you might set us free because Jesus that’s what you died on the cross to do – it is for freedom that Christ has set us free. So Father we just receive that freedom right now and we thank you so much for it. Would you continue to transform us into the image of your Son, and would you enable us to fulfill our calling. And may nothing hold us back. In Jesus’ name, Amen. And I’ll see you in episode 10.

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